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Moan on a Monday #1: Women VS Women

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Jealousy. When it comes to what attribute is most likely to turn off the opposite sex, the green monster usually comes out top trumps.

It’s an emotion that many of us will be faced with at some stage in our lives.

‘Bob next door just bought a brand new Range Rover. I’m so jealous!’

‘Maggie’s just bought a villa in the Maldives! It’s so unfair!’

These are what I would count as normal jealousy responses. They don’t really affect your lives nor the lives of those who you are jealous of.

Women on woman jealousy, however, is another thing entirely (and no this is not the title of a new Porn Hub movie).

It’s not a new phenomenon, but it is something that appears to be more prevalent in mainstream society.

Some women find it extremely hard to appreciate other women.

Whether it’s for their success, their looks or their lives in general, these people often find that turning their hand to some internet trolling (often in the case of celebrities or internet stars) or speaking negatively about other woman will make them feel better about themselves.

We all know that this type of jealousy stems down to insecurity. Pretty much every woman has their insecurities. Not every human is perfect and we shouldn’t destroy our self-esteems trying to strive for something which doesn’t have a distinct definition. But’s that is exactly what woman are doing when they show hatred and jealousy towards other woman!

Come on ladies, don’t we have enough to worry about!

It seems completely insane to me why, as women, we can’t stand by each other rather than against one another.

Can we not hand another woman a compliment without feeling that it is somehow demoralising to our own self-worth?

Are we not capable of appreciating the beauty or success of another woman without the bitterness of jealousy thrown in to measure?

I was watching ‘The Only Way is Essex’ the other day (try not to judge). A number of the female cast were making fun of another cast member not only for the way she spoke but also, for the way she looked.

Now, these ladies would probably argue you to the grown about how ‘so not jealous’ they were of this individual, but I can’t really understand why you would put so much energy into hating someone if they weren’t?

Jealousy and hatred are time wasting

It must be so tiring being constantly hateful and jealous of other people.

It’s time and effort you could be transferring into something more productive and positive. Negativity is draining and detrimental  in all its integrity.

When you praise and hold up other woman, you’ll find that more people will look up to you and hold you in higher esteem. Positive energy breeds. We need to admit as woman we are often self-conscious, but not allow it to taint the way we behave towards others.

Woman have enough enemies out there in the form of destructive and harmful media (which create more insecurities) without turning on each other like a pack of wild animals without a decent meal.

These emotions can hold women back.

Let’s stop being so negative and start appreciating and admiring woman. It’s important that we show compassion and love for one another, not just for ourselves but our future generation.

Let’s spread the love!

Georgia 

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